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Loving a Husband with Dissociative Identity Disorder
If you are a woman married to a man with Dissociative Identity Disorder, I'm so glad you found this page because I know that there are times when you feel overwhelmed, heartbroken, confused and tempted to believe that no one understands. I want you to know that you are not alone. There are others who understand. I am one of the others.
I've been in a loving, rediculously complicated relationship with my husband since we were 15 years old. We married as teens and within weeks, I was not only pregnant, I was aware that something very wrong. The charming, athletic, kind, fun and safe person I'd married at 18 had become someone else. I've only seen that version of my husband 3 times in the last 29 years. I've met all the fronting alters, learned his system, and have done everything you can possibly imagine to get to know and love them all. They are many, but they are all parts of him.
Below you will find some of the most helpful resources I've found after now decades of research. I've used and tried all the resources you will learn about on this page, and there are always more to come because as you know, as the spouse of a dissociative person, the challenges never really end.
To say that our marriages are complicated is the understatement of the universe, but to stay with someone who has a serious mental illness that they're working on managing every day, a serious psychosis that they never would have asked for or imagined, created by the ultimate evil in this world - the abuse of a child, is the ultimate act of what the Bible calls, Hesed Love. Similar to the love shown to dimentia, alzheimers and frontal temporal lobe disorders.
You are a miracle, a beautiful gloriously kind person who should get all the help you need to persevere with love, for yourself, your children, your family. A community of people that wouldn't exist apart from your love for and with your dissociative spouse.
God is with you and you are never alone. Thank you for being the answer to a child's prayer, prayers your innocent spouse prayed as they were being abused and crying out for help, justice and real, abiding, hesed love.